Why We Do What We Do
Performing in a band, releasing music, producing films, writing books, hosting a radio show, operating a Roku TV channel, and just basically being in the public eye… you can imagine that what we do generates a lot of feedback. The overwhelming majority of which is incredibly positive and encouraging. One of the most often asked questions we receive from the public is: “Are you two really that much in love?” The truth? An emphatic yes! Even more than we portray to the public! And to let you in on a little secret, one of our biggest desires with all of our work is to encourage other couples to have the kind of relationship that we have. Nothing would please us more than to know that we influenced the world in this way.
Every once in a rare occasion, we receive feedback from the public that isn’t so positive and encouraging. This crowd (and I hesitate even using the word “crowd” because the number of negative criticisms over the years have been infinitesimally small) usually is put off by our PDA – public displays of affection. Frankly, this “crowd” is disturbing to me on many levels. They are the people who enjoy watching friends become enemies while debating over hot topics (politics, religion, etc.) on social media sites or love nothing more than watching arguments unravel between two former friends on television programs such as Judge Judy. These people are gossips, judgmental, and miserable themselves. And you know the old saying… misery loves company. They watch violent movies and television shows with intense sex scenes (keep in mind, I also enjoy a good violent action movie and many of my favorite movies also may happen to include sex scenes in them… but I’m not the one doing the judging, now, am I?) but are offended by a real-life couple madly in love with each other sharing a passionate kiss in public or talking about how we play games together or explore fantasies to enhance our sex life. We have chosen not to respond to these people on the rare occasions that they’ve come forth with bitterness. After all, why would we engage in a discussion with miserable people when we are too busy living our passionate, adventurous, love-filled marriage to the fullest?
But this past week, someone commented to our October 17, 2016 Radio Show on our website and we decided that his comment to us was all the answer we ever needed to give to these critics. His comment was too perfect to just approve and move on. His words deserved special attention. So to the small “crowd” of critics over the years, allow his words to sink in. After all, it’s the only answer we’ll spend time giving you. It’s why we do what we do.
Comment from: “Your Most Grateful Fan”
I’d like to share what your site has meant to me. I am not small statured, I’m a fairly fit, muscular kind of guy. I am 5 foot 8, 190 pounds. I am athletic and played baseball in high school and wrestled in college. But I always for my entire life had a secret desire that no one but me knew. While I look strong on the outside, I secretly wanted to be physically overpowered by women that were just slightly smaller than me. To tell you the whole truth, that is how I found your website. I was searching for these kinds of videos online to feed my fantasy. I watched a few without really getting to know anything else about your website. Believe it or not, it was several months after finding your site before I started listening to your radio show. And then I found out about You Got Beat by a Girl, your documentary. I downloaded the ebook to read it first while waiting on the film. And with every page, I was crying out “this guy is so me!” I didn’t know how to bring this desire up to my wife since I was very very very embarrassed of my fantasy. She never knew anything. To her, I was the tough guy. I thought she would not respect me or think of me as less of a man if she knew. And I could never tell another guy! But after reading through your book, I decided to hint to her at what I would like. I was tired of just seeing videos of other couples doing it and if I was getting turned on by it, it wasn’t fair to my wife. Unlike you guys, she could never really beat me in a physical test of strength. Of any kind. But I am OK just pretending and playing the fantasy as role-play. How I brought it up first was by teasingly baiting her, trying to joke with her till I provoked her. We were acting silly and I was taunting her and she finally took the bait and I let her take me down and pretended that I could not get up. I looked at her and said “mercy! I give up!” She was grinning from ear to ear and a big smile was on her face, too! She asked me if she really did it or I let her. I told her the truth that I let her but then told her it sure would be a turn on if it was real. I was scared to death after I said it and was watching her face to see if she would think I was a sicko. Instead, she kept playing right along! That was about six months ago. We have enjoyed the role playing ever since. And it has become far more intense. I love it! Our sex life is better than ever now. I don’t need to explain to you how this is incorporated into sex. I’m sure you are masters at the subject. For so long, I thought my fantasy was less than manly. Truthfully, I’ve never felt more like a man in my life than we role-play together. I feel bad that I didn’t tell her for so many years. The only thing I can’t get past right now is the humiliation part. I’m not quite ready for that yet. We enjoy all kinds of fantasy domination when we are alone but I don’t have the courage to do anything in public yet. Although, I admit, the thought of that is a huge turn on for me. I wish I could get over it. I especially want other women to see her beat me at stuff. But every time I think of trying it I take a look at everyone around me and I get too nervous. Maybe one day. I have come a long way. And thank you for that! Your book made the difference for me. I used to go to your site to watch videos of my fantasy since no one knew about it. Now, I just watch them to give myself a few new ideas. I have my own wife to dominate me in real life, even if we are faking her victories. It’s still such a turn on. Thank you a million times for your work. I listen to your radio show every week, by the way. You are the best couple anywhere except for us. LOL I can’t wait to see the documentary when it’s done.
There it is. There is nothing else we feel we need to say on this subject. Thank you very much to “Our Most Grateful Fan.” We hope your marriage thrives and is filled with joy and passion forevermore. You encourage us. And we are most grateful for people like you!