Almost every day we hear the words “get a room,” “too much PDA – save it for the bedroom,” or “you two act like teenagers together!” Some people say it with a touch of jealousy, wishing for passionate love to return to their life and marriage. Others say it as a joke, surprised that a couple of our age acts the way we do. Still others say it in disgust, suggesting that affection and passion should be reserved for time spent behind closed doors. “We don’t want to see that,” they’ll say. To that crowd I respectfully ask you to simply look away… because we’re not stopping.
When Char and I first got married, everyone said that after the newlywed phase ended, we would become a “normal couple.” Translation: unloving, selfish, nagging, disloyal. Months passed and people said our newlywed phase was just lasting a bit longer than it does for others. “Just wait until you’re married a year,” they said. Then two years… three years… five years… seven years. Now, people just question how we keep the fire burning so sizzling hot all the time.
What all of our questioners don’t realize is that I have a question for them. How could I ever keep from being passionate about my bride? Truth be told, I can’t keep my paws off of Char! She’s the sexiest, most fun, most exciting, most adventurous, most wonderful woman in the world! She’s what I fantasized about my entire life! She flirts with me endlessly, plays with me constantly, and feeds into my fantasies. On top of that, she’s nurturing, she’s respectful, she’s honest, she’s caring, she’s genuine, she’s talented, and she’s encouraging. And most importantly, we’re equally yoked in our faith in God. How could I keep from loving her publicly and privately, day and night, forevermore?
After all, that’s what you’re supposed to do with your spouse! My bride is my best friend. Two became one. I was no longer Louis. I became Louis and Char. When I said “I do” to Char, I recognize that my vow implied that I might have to say “I don’t” to everyone else from time to time. And I do. To use the U2 song title, “Two Hearts Beat As One.”
Char and I never stop flirting with each other, never stop surprising each other, never stop loving each other. We live fully, laugh freely, and love passionately so that we will never have regrets in life. Sure, we’ve done things that make other people blush, shake their heads, or stare in disbelief. Char dresses up as Wonder Woman, we’ve wrestled each other in a televised match, we dance and kiss while walking along busy roadways. Sometimes, we really mix it up and wrestle each other while Char’s in costume on the side of a busy roadway. We sing and we dance without regard to how we appear to onlookers. Because we’re not singing and dancing for them, anyway (well, I suppose with the exception of when we’re on stage with our band). We’re singing and dancing for each other.
No, we’ll never stop showing each other our love – publicly and privately. And that’s why our marriage is so passionate. By the way, this post on The Traveling Twosome website is itself a Public Display of Affection (of the written kind). It’s also my anniversary card to Char. Happy Anniversary, Char. I love you!